Don't Be Scared To Fight

Thought for the Week:  Don't be scared to fight

What are you afraid of in life?  For many years I was afraid to be myself.  I am not exactly sure where this fear stemmed from, but it took over my life at some point.  And what I mean by it took over is that it disabled my destiny.  I was not living my purpose.  This made me extremely unhappy, so I began doing things to fill that void….unhealthy things.  However, no matter what I did, nothing made me happy or filled the void.  After a brush with the law I decided I could no longer live my life for other people’s happiness.  I could not afford (mentally afford) to be afraid to live my life.

I wanted to move and write.  Leaving the small town I grew up in was always a dream of mine.  However, whenever I mention moving I would allow people to talk me out of it for one reason or another.  Now do not misunderstand, I love my hometown; it’s just not the place for me to live my entire life. 

Another dream of mine was to become a writer.  For as long as I can remember I enjoyed writing.  First one act plays, then short stories, then later in life I began writing poems.  Unfortunately, becoming a writer was not something I was able to foresee considering my circumstances.  This all changed when I saw the advertisements for the motion picture, The Secret Life of The Bees.  The author of the book, Sue Monk Kidd, was from my hometown.  I thought if she can do, then so can I!

You cannot live your life afraid to live it. After all you only have one...maximize it!

When someone tries to kill your happy, give him/her a fight! I'm talking about tape up your fist, remove your earring, pull your hair back, rub on some Vaseline, look the challenge in the eye and say "Let's Go!!" Men put on your war paint, pick up your sphere, let out your battle cry, and run full speed towards the beast! Be fearless in your fight! Kill the naysayers, happy stealers, and dream crushers!! They have no place in your life! You have no space for them! This is your life, fight for it!

This week I DARE you to be BOLD and FEARLESS!  This week I dare you to chase your dreams!  Make your dreams a reality!

Everyone Gets Sad

It’s Okay To Be Sad Sometime

I have days when I am sad, I think most people have days like that.  Even though we all have our sad moments or days, society leads you to believe there’s something wrong with it.  Believing this myth I would force myself to pretend to feel a way I did not feel.  I would smother my sadness….force it back down.  I can no longer do that in 2013.  By smothering my sadness it never truly went away, instead it began to fester.  I've heard many individuals say that happiness is a choice.  This is a bittersweet statement in my opinion.  It basically says that if you’re sad it’s by choice, but it’s not that black and white.  Yes happiness is a choice, but how do you make that choice….how do you heal?

What do I have to do to become a happier person?  That’s the million dollar question!  Here are my thoughts.

First, I have to acknowledge that my pain/sadness exists.  Ignoring it will not make it disappear.  Secondly, I have to come to the realization that though it exists, it does not have a place in my future.  There is a reason this womb did not heal, so lastly I have to make peace with my sadness/pain.  So whatever is keeping me sad I have to find a way to resolve it and make peace.  This will not necessarily be an easy thing to do, but it MUST BE DONE.